Stay the Blazes Home
This is a direct quote from the Premier of Nova Scotia. “Stay the blazes home.”
It’s a great quote and I like to think that people are basically doing that. For some of us that are more difficult than it is for others. For extraverts and social personalities, it is unnatural to be at home alone. These people struggle and, like me, they are probably moving from one distraction to another as they try to move through the day without the social interaction that gives their lives meaning. These people are the ones who are missing their team sport or their dance class and just can’t understand how to or what to do without that outlet.
For the introverts, the self-preservationists will make out fine. I heard one introvert say that the isolation seemed to be requiring more ‘check-ins’ then he would normally be able to tolerate. He found himself hoping to limit who he needed to touch base with and how often. And another friend who is an introvert exclaimed this week that she was enjoying her own company and may just stay in isolation when this thing is lifted.
Some people are most comfortable with one on one interaction. For them, it can be less of an issue. As long as they can connect online through audio or video with people one on one they can meet the need for social contact in a way that may not have the physical closeness but can allow them to become closer to other measures of wellbeing.
So, in your household you may find that different individuals are responding differently to the “Stay the Blazes Home” imperative … and that’s okay. People are complicated. It might be an opportunity to discuss how people are all really different from each other and we cannot expect that everyone will respond to this situation the way that we do.
Giving people space doesn’t just refer to physical space and distancing. There may be a need for other kinds of distancing in stressful times. A good check-in for how you are doing is to consider a measure between 1 and 5, on our wellbeing on all of these scales; Social, Physical, Intellectual, Emotional and Spiritual. If one is lower than use the others to shore it up.
More about all of this next week.
PS Check out the Mapping the Space tab on my website www.drnancylove.com. Excerpts from the book have begun to appear.