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In Search of Beauty, Goodness and Truth

Yesterday we visited the Uffizi Gallery here in Florence.  It was awesome to see the many priceless treasures, the statues and portraits, the tapestries, all interpretations of life in another time.  There are 50 or 100 renditions of Madonna and Child.  Each has a sameness and a uniqueness about it.  Each is an interpretation of a biblical event and yet each is seen and PORTRAYED through the eyes of the interpreter/artist.  I wondered about the differences.  Why was it that the facial features of each of these Madonnas was different?  It seems as if the artist portrayed, in each instance, his own interpretation of beauty which, I am confident, also portrayed something of himself.

Each of us sees beauty, goodness and truth through our own lens.  As we look at any work of art we see not only the work of art but the artist as well. So we are interpreters of interpretations as we stand and admire and begin to recognize the artist in the painting or the sculpture.  We see his technique or his style.  We see his preoccupation, his stance, his perspective and we are left to appreciate as observers of observers, adding yet another perspective on the life portrayed.

As PULSE practitioners we are artists.  Our participants are the subjects as they portray to us and to each other their version of events and circumstances.  They are also artists, painting the picture from their own perch or stance.  We are the interpreters, the portraitists, looking for the beauty, truth and goodness in what they have said, providing a PULSE interpretation of or focus on the situation, a new perspective … an appreciative FRAME through which to view their world.

The art in PULSE is in the listening.   In every work of art it is the artist who adds light and colour to what he sees or hears as significant.  PULSE artists work to remain true to the beauty, goodness and truth of the subjects of the masterpiece.  PULSE practitioners understand that their perspective is one of many and they greatly value the perspective of the subjects of the portraits, understanding that it is truly the only valid perspective, the one that must be honoured in the portrayal.  As they listen, PULSE practitioners focus their subjects on the truth, goodness and beauty in the work of art that is their conversation.

So the style of a PULSE artist/practitioner could be described as appreciative realist, an artist who uses simple, skillful, brush strokes or questions to focus attention, an artist who allows the beauty, goodness and truth of the participants to predominate in his or her rendition or interpretation of the circumstance. An artist with a simple yet complex approach that encourages individuals to inperpret for themselves, to take the beauty, goodness and truth from the past, see it in the present situation and to search for beauty, goodness and truth in their rendition of the future.

Thank you for listening and adding your own interpretation, taking your own meaning, seeing your own beauty, goodness and truth.  Today we go to Cinque Terra.

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It’s a Small World

Yesterday, here in Florence I saw David. THE David by Michelangelo.  It is a magnificent work of art and the marvel of it is in the detail and the size.  It was wonderful and I enjoyed the experience tremendously.  I was even more touched by a plaster cast of a marble statue entitled Dancing Girls, more because of the personal attachment I had to it immediately and even more so once I read the details of the statue.  The two girls in the statue were among the daughters of Lady Charlotte Campbell of Scotland.  Being a Charlotte of Scottish heritage that caught my eye.  And when the girls names were a match for my two daughters I was even more intrigued.  My daughters are also dancers so the whole experience was interesting and made me smile and think about how we may all be repeating the lives of our ancestors in increasingly modern versions …

The other thing that happened that was astounding was that as we were leaving the Accademia, I literally ran into a friend from Edmonton, a PULSE Practitioner and former high school princial like me.  We were both surprised and spent a few moments catching up and looking for ways to get together when we return.  What are the chances?  What lesson is in a chance meeting like that?  Now I am on the lookout for familiar faces and it seems that everyone I see could be someone I know. 

It is so much fun to be away and see the world from another perspective.  Perspectives on your own world change too, sometimes almost imperceptibly … but they do.  It is a small world.  Being gentle and honest, open and specific and talking with people you encounter comes back to you and makes chance future encounters a joy.  Enjoy.

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Time Travel and PULSE

Today I am in Florence. Yesterday and the day before blended into one very long day. Twelve hours of travelling and eight hours of time change equals confusion for biological clocks. And yet there is so much travel these days. Business people aboard jumbo jets crossing the ocean like they were crossing the street. I have to wonder about the effect that is having on business decisions and relationships.

When the Africans were in Canmore a few weeks ago. I watched them struggle as they worked to reset their clocks to meet the demans of learning. Now as I adjust I am even more aware of how they must of felt. And I think to myself about how walking a mile or travelling across time zones in someone elses shoes is easier if you have infact had at least similar experiences.

Here we are talking about time zones as they exist in the world. The same can be said for the past, present, future time zones of the PULSE frame. Once awareness of the existence of time zones of understanding is experienced empathy is closer. Parties are better able to move to Empathy if they have been there before. Seeing the world as someone else might takes courage and  curiosity and is not as automatic as we may think. This is especially true if we have never had any experiences of our own to draw on. Hence the skepticism of first time PULSE conversation  participants and the conviction of those who have travelled the conversation time zones.

Thanks to Marjorie for posting this for me. More tomorrow. Today I see David.

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“SHOULDING” on ourselfs and others

I am hoping that while we are visiting Italy for the next couple of weeks that I will be as diligent about blogging.  It is a great way to feel as if you are keeping in touch without forcing yourself on people.  A couple of paragraphs a day should be doable.  “SHOULD” – It’s a funny word that people usually use to correct a situation.  We do “should” on ourselves a lot especiallyin tragic times.  “If only we had” …  except and accept that we didn’t.  As humans we also “SHOULD” on others, giving advice even when it is unsolicited.

“Should” is a desctructive word.  It judges.  It is subjunctive and subjective.  It is tentative and I can’t recall one instance where it made me feel better.  I like to leave it out of my vocabulary but when I am under stress or tired or just not thinking … there it is.  “Things should have been different”   The reality is that they weren’t.  The question is not what should happen now or in the future but what will happen next.  Will creates the image of the future more powerfully. Will and Agree to project certainty and the acceptance of responsibility necessary to “Make it so” as Captain Picard of the USS Enterprise would say.

Having said so, I AGREE to write the blog while I am in Italy.  I WILL describe thoughts as seen from a new perspecitive, a new stance describing PULSE from a distance and viewing Italy as a visitor preoccupied with people and language.  Arrivederci – for now.

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PULSE Conversations for Change in PULSE

Relationships change.  People move into PULSE, learn what they have come to learn and then move on.  Over the past six years I have watched as people contribute what they can, learn about PULSE  and themselves and then move onto the next adventure. PULSE as an organization manages many kinds of relationships.  What might be unique is that once people move on efforts are made to keep in touch and to redefine relationship rather than end it completely.  I like that about us. It isn’t alwaysthe case but most who have worked with us in one capacity or another do keep in touch and maintain a relationship based on the principles and shared criteria for involvement.

Terry, our Executive Director is moving on.  She will focus on her own company – TiLT.  Although that leaves PULSE with a gigantic space to fill, I am happy to see that she is following her own dream.  That is what PULSE is about empowering people to do what they do best.  It would be inconsistent of us not to wish her well and to provide what ever support she needs to reach her own goals.  Terry will become a PULSE Associate, offering PULSE products through TiLT. 

Redefining relationships is what we do in every conversation that we have in our lives. It is interesting to me to see the PULSE philosophy working especially within our own company.  A structured conversation makes even difficult conversations successful.  Terry’s criteria for a better future and our needs as a company are considered as we plan to transition to this new level of involvement in each others work lives.  The future becomes obvious when criteria are made clear and we move toward it. Best of luck to Terry and to PULSE.

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Life is too short – Give and Receive the Gift of Listening while you live

Thanks to everyone for the encouragement and for sharing your own insight. Today is difficult. There was a domestic homocide in Calgary yesterday. It was one of Jim’s employees. His wife, two of his three kids and a border in his house died with him.

When something like this happens everybody wonders what they could have done to prevent such a tragedy.  What I notice is that prevention of this kind of event hinges on our abilities as human beings to truly communicate our thoughts, our feelings and our perceptions of the past, present and future.

For me PREVENTION looks like the PULSE GHOST.  Speak Gently, Honestly, Openly, Specifically AND Talk from where you hurt!! Listen with HEART, Hush, Empathize, Attend, Reflect and Trust.  Listen with FULL attention when others talk. Hear what is unsaid. Listen with Head, Heart and Body. Give and receive, with appreciation and gratitude, the gift of listening and speaking daily.

Take care of yourselves and the people in your life. Be courageous and curious, always in all ways.

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PULSE as Emergency Response Route

I was in Vancouver and Seattle this weekend.  It was a great trip.  I had never been to Seattle and was pleasantly surprised by the city and all it has to offer.  On the way back after we passed the border I notices signs on the Canadian side that I had not noticed before.  They caught my eye because they were the shape of a delta triangle and they had lines accross them that divided the triangle into 5 horizontal sections.  Except for the colours which were black and yellow it could have been a PULSE Frame image.  Below the symbol was a sign that read “Emergency Response Route”. How appropriate considering that the road sign shows the way to safety and so does the PULSE Frame.  I was surprised by the similar shape and design and even more intrigued by the similar purpose.

The PULSE Frame is a very effective path or route for rescuing relationships and leading parties to a mutually beneficial plan of action.  As parties move through the Frame from Prepare to Uncover, to Learn and Search and Explain, they are guided towards a future that is positive and appreciative, more promising than the future they envisioned before they began down the PULSE path.  Just as those who follow the Emergency Response Route in case of disaster will find safety so too will PULSE parties find a safety for Body, Heart and Head.

 

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Hello world!

This is the beginning of a new world for me … the first day of the rest of my life.  I alwasy considered myself technologically adept but today as I am learning about blogs and webinars, I have discoverd a whole new world. There are those of you well a head of me on this journey.  Thank you for clearing the e-path, marking the e-trail and making it look e-zier for those of us who are following in your e-steps.

I have so much to say.  Marjorie has warned if I strat I must visit and update and answer regularly, three times a week at a minimum.  That seems like an awesome responsiblity to take on when my days and yours are already full. What to give up to ensure that the discipline of blogging inegrates into my life? My first thought is that this become my e-journal. Everyday I journal PULSE thoughts.  If I were to synthesize those into a e-message Monday, Wednesday and Friday, that might work.

This is quite exciting.  Some themes I might want to work with are the Oprah Trek, the 9 PULSE Beaches, the PULSE Prism and PULSE and the Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy. I hope that all the PULSE Professionals will join in to make this interesting.  Keeping all of you  informed as to our activity and intention has not been easy as life fills our days.

Let’s try again … publish this … and commit to three days a week to keep in touch.

 

 

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